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How to use your childbirth timeline banner?

How to use your childbirth/labour timeline banner?

Here are 11 ideas 💡 for using your childbirth timeline banner (or beadlines) in your classes.

How to use your childbirth/labour timeline banner
How to use your childbirth/labour timeline banner

For group work, I recommend the large timeline banner; for 1:1 work, the smaller banners and/or beadlines. You can adapt any of the activities below for groups or 1:1 sessions, using either the banners or the beadlines.

1. Explore how birth might unfold

Reveal the timeline bit by bit, starting at the beginning of the birth journey. You might point out the changes happening inside the body: how the cervix softens and dilates, and how the baby moves. My Stages of Labour worksheets, activities and visual aids make a great visual add-on.

Exploring physiological birth with the childbirth timeline banner
Exploring physiological birth with the childbirth timeline banner

2. Add comfort measures along the line

Explore medical and non-medical comfort measures. As you discuss the pros and cons, add when each option might be offered or commonly used – for example, “When is too early or too late for an epidural?” I like to use little props, like a rubber duck for “water or birth pool”.

Exploring comfort measures along the labour timeline banner
Labour timeline banner – exploring comfort measures

3. Explore induction and augmentation

As with comfort measures, the timeline is an excellent way to explore which methods of induction and augmentation are available locally, and when they might be offered. I like to use my induction discussion prompt cards and some props. See also my induction of labour decision activity.

Exploring induction and augmentation of labour along the timeline banner
Exploring the options and timing of induction and augmentation of labour

4. Explore the role of the birth partner

Exploring the birth partner’s role as one of the guardians of oxytocin is an important part of many antenatal classes. The timeline helps birth partners work out what they might be doing, and when. I hand out sticky notes and pens and ask everyone to write or draw what they might be doing at each point.

5. Explore birth place and birth environment

While birth partners explore their role, I usually ask the birthing parents to explore their birth place and environment, with some questions to think about: Where will you be during early labour, established labour and so on? How can you make your birth space as comfortable as possible? Who will be there with you? This leads nicely on to what to pack in the birth bag, where they might like to give birth (home, hospital or midwife-led unit) and their birth plan or preferences. My Birth Place Decisions card sort works well here too.

6. Explore feelings along the timeline

How might the birthing parent be feeling? How does the birth partner feel? And how might the baby feel at that moment? I split the group into three, giving each a different colour of sticky notes – one colour each for baby, birthing parent and birth partner. They write or draw faces showing how that person might be feeling and stick them along the timeline.

7. Explore helpful positions

I use my positions for childbirth cards (also available as printable flashcards) and ask parents to place them along the timeline.

Positions for childbirth cards along the timeline banner
Positions for childbirth cards along the labour/childbirth timeline banner

8. Explore hypnobirthing techniques

Simply ask: “Which hypnobirthing technique or track is most helpful, and when?” Give each person a card or piece of paper with a technique, or a copy of a script, then ask, “When would you use this?” Each person, couple or family places their item along the timeline in turn.

9. Explore breathing techniques

As with the ideas above, use printed cards and ask parents-to-be to place them along the timeline, exploring which breathing techniques might help at different stages of their birth journey.

10. Explore massage techniques

Try out different massage techniques together and explore which might be most helpful or comfortable during labour. Pictured here are my massage technique cards, which are also available as printable flashcards.

Massage technique cards along the childbirth timeline banner
Exploring massage techniques for childbirth

11. Explore the golden hour

Finally, when exploring the third stage of labour (the birth of the placenta), explore the golden hour and skin-to-skin, and why they help with the birth of the placenta, bonding and starting breastfeeding. For this, I use my newborn appearance photo set and, where appropriate and agreed with the group, placenta photos or my placenta and cord poster.

Placenta, third stage of labour and newborn appearance photo cards
Exploring the golden hour of childbirth

Want to make your own labour beadline? Take my self-paced online beadline course or use my Labour Beadline pattern.

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Halloween craft activities for your newborn!

Your newborn is probably a bit young for trick or treating, so here are some Halloween craft ideas to enjoy together instead!

Halloween crafts with your newborn

Use your baby’s hand and/or footprints to make Halloween crafts. They make fun decorations for your home and become a lovely keepsake! You could make the same picture every year to see how much your little one’s hands and feet have grown.

Top tips for hand and footprints with babies:

  • If your baby is old enough to sit safely in a highchair, pop them in it for easy, less messy access to their feet.
  • If they’re too young for a highchair, do their footprints while they’re asleep, or ask a friend or family member to help.
  • Use water-based, baby-safe paints, and check the label to see whether they wash out or might stain.
  • Handprints are easier when babies are a little older – newborns tend to keep their hands curled into tight fists. Your best chance of a newborn handprint is when they’re fast asleep!

Here are some Halloween craft ideas for you and your newborn:

I’ve created a Pinterest board with more hand and footprint Halloween ideas for you and your baby!

Happy Halloween! Share your pictures with me in the comments!

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Birth Partner Do’s and Don’ts

Birth Partner do's and don'ts

Going to be a birth partner? Here are some birth partner do’s and don’ts – well, mostly do’s. You’ll work out the don’ts from reading them!

To be a supportive, confident and well-informed birth partner, try the following:

  • Go to childbirth preparation classes with your partner. They’ll help you understand what’s happening and what she’s talking about – and there’s some new vocabulary to learn, too!
  • Be reachable by phone, especially as the due date gets closer.
  • Pack your own hospital or home birth bag, with a change of clothes, swimwear for the birth pool, your own drinks and snacks (please don’t eat or drink hers!) and maybe some comfy shoes or slippers.
  • Know how to fit the car seat, and keep it in the car.
  • Know the route to the hospital or birth unit, and keep the car fuelled up (or charged).
  • Know where her maternity notes are (or how to access them on her phone).
  • Agree who to tell about the birth, and when. Make a list of contact details.
  • Make sure your phone or camera is charged and has plenty of storage space – maybe keep a power bank in your bag!
  • Support your partner wherever you can, and take over tasks like shopping, cooking, laundry and cleaning so she can rest before and after the birth.
  • Know and understand your partner’s wishes in her birth plan, and add your own too. Even better: write it together!
  • If you have older children or pets, make sure you know who will look after them and how to contact them.
  • If this isn’t your first baby, take over looking after and entertaining the older one(s) whenever you can, to give mum a break before and after the birth.
  • To practise for labour and birth, offer a massage and/or a slow dance twice a week in the run-up to the birth. Then use these techniques during labour to help your partner feel more comfortable.
  • Practise affirmations together. You can download free affirmations here, and there are some examples below.

I hope you find these ideas useful! If you’ve been a birth partner before, share what worked for you and your partner in the comments – we’d love to know. For more ideas, see my Birth Partner Hacks.

My online birth preparation course is for birth partners, too!

Please also check out my online course! No videos, just text and images to learn in your own time. Includes hypnobirthing mp3s, scripts, workbook, handouts, infographics and much more! Lots and lots of information at your fingertips! Includes:

  • hypnobirthing mp3s
  • hypnobirthing scripts
  • written information
  • infographics and other imagery
  • printable handouts
  • printable workbook/journal
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Bottle-feeding for breast-fed babies

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How can I get my breastfed baby to take a bottle?

To be honest, like so much about birthing and raising children, it’s a lot of trial and error. There’s no one-size-fits-all or quick fix – every baby, and every relationship between baby and parent, is unique.

The suggestions below for introducing a bottle to your breastfed baby come from years of working with new parents.

When should I introduce a bottle?

The timing is up to you, and depends on why you’re introducing a bottle and whether you want to keep breastfeeding or mix feed. Some parents need to stop breastfeeding earlier than they’d hoped for medical reasons, or because they’ll be away from their baby. Others choose to stop, or to start mixed feeding, out of personal preference. Anything is possible, and there’s no single best time – your family and circumstances are unique.

How do I start?

  • Choose a day when your partner or main support person is around. Your baby may accept a bottle more easily from someone other than the breastfeeding parent. They know their milk comes from you, and may not understand why it’s now coming from this new object.
  • Choose a time when your baby is calm and settled. A settled baby is usually more open to new things.
  • Start small. At first, offer the bottle about an hour after a breastfeed, with a small amount (around 15ml/½oz) of breast milk or formula.
  • Get the temperature right. Breastfed babies are used to milk at body temperature (about 37°C) and can be fussy about it. Warm refrigerated breast milk in a bowl of warm water, a bottle warmer or under warm running water. Cool freshly made-up formula in a bowl of cold water or under cold running water.
  • Leave the room (or the house). Sometimes the breastfeeding parent needs to be out of the way so the baby can’t smell their milk.
  • Be patient. Gently touch your baby’s upper lip with the teat and let them ‘latch on’ as they would to the breast. If they get upset and haven’t fed after 10 minutes, stop and try again later or the next day.
  • Bond with your baby. Talk to them and make eye contact. Skin-to-skin can help too – it helps your baby relax and settle, and stimulates their interest in feeding.
  • Try different teats and bottles. You might strike lucky with the first one, but if not, there are plenty more to try:
    • Short, rounded teats with a wide base are thought to give an experience more similar to breastfeeding.
    • Some babies gag on longer teats, so shorter ones may suit them better.
    • Warm the teat with warm water before feeding.
  • Try different positions. The positions babies prefer for bottle feeding are often different from breastfeeding positions. Try a facing-out position so your baby can look around the room, or walk around while feeding.
  • Try a spoon, a free-flow cup, a Doidy Cup or a small open cup. If you’d rather not use a bottle, or you’ve tried everything and it hasn’t worked, you could try one of these instead. Hold your baby upright and well supported on your lap. Bring the spoon or cup to their mouth and touch the milk to their upper lip, letting them take the milk themselves at their own pace. Never pour milk into your baby’s mouth, as this could make them choke.

Responsive (paced) bottle feeding

For anyone feeding their baby with a bottle, responsive or paced bottle feeding is recommended by the NHS.

Recognise feeding cues, and feed your baby when they show signs of hunger.
Hold your baby close, in a semi-upright position, during feeds.
Brush the teat against your baby’s top lip to encourage them to open their mouth wide. Keep the bottle fairly horizontal.
Watch your baby and follow their cues when they need a break.
Your baby knows how much milk they need – follow their lead.
Responsive (paced) bottle feeding
Responsive bottle feeding visual guide
Responsive (paced) bottle feeding – a visual guide

Here is a video on paced bottle feeding:

Sources, references and further reading

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Icebreakers for antenatal classes

Icebreakers for antenatal classes: break the ice, bond the group and help create lifelong friendships!

Successful group antenatal and parenting classes need icebreakers. They help participants engage with the content, get to know the facilitator and each other, and build a bond as a group.

I’d start with an icebreaker that goes round the whole group early on. Research suggests that once everyone has spoken once, they are more likely to ask questions and join in later.

Icebreakers can be really simple – for example, asking the group a question and inviting each person to say their name and give their answer.

Some icebreaker questions for your antenatal classes (choose just one per round):

  • One thing I already know about my/our baby is…
  • My biggest question about becoming a parent is…
  • As a new parent, I’m looking forward to…
  • My greatest fear about being a parent is…
  • As a new parent, I’m not looking forward to…
  • One quality I would like my child to have is…
  • One thing I’ve done or changed because we’re having a baby is…
  • As a new parent, I hope I can…
  • One thing I’d like to achieve in our baby’s first week at home is…
  • Becoming a parent means to me…
  • One person I would like my/our baby to meet is…
  • When I need support, I can turn to…
  • One thing I’ll gain as a new parent is…
  • One thing I’ll lose as a new parent is…
  • My/our baby will sleep in…
  • When I hear the word ‘breastfeeding’, I think…
  • If I had an extra hour a day (while everyone else still had 24), I would…
  • When I see someone breastfeeding, I feel/think…
  • When I see someone bottle feeding, I feel/think…
  • When I need advice, I’ll ask…
  • When I think about parental leave, I feel…
  • When I think about returning to work, I feel…

Let each person give their answer without commenting on it. Questions like these encourage discussion of topics you may not otherwise cover, and are also great for revision and group bonding.

More icebreaker ideas:

  • Goodie bag activity – fill a bag with items (one per person or couple), such as birth bag, nappy bag or postnatal recovery items. Each person or couple picks one at random. Then go round and ask each ‘owner’ to talk about their item: What is it? What might it be used for? My Hospital Birth Bag Sorting Game works well for this topic too.
  • People bingo – each participant gets a “people bingo” card and has to talk to others to find people who match each statement, such as “Has a red car”, “Doesn’t drink tea” or “Is left-handed”.
  • Scavenger hunt – when facilitating online, I often use a scavenger hunt. I put a list of items on the screen, usually linked to a topic such as the birth bag, and ask participants to find as many as they can. It always creates lots of laughter and gets people moving instead of sitting in front of a screen!
  • Physical skills demo – ask each person or couple to demonstrate a breathing technique, a position for childbirth or a massage technique, and encourage everyone else to join in.
  • Anatomy icebreaker – my Pregnancy Anatomy Icebreaker gets everyone talking from the very first session.

Find more activities for your antenatal and parenting classes in my digital downloads.

Sources and further reading

  • Chlup, D. T., & Collins, T. E. (2010). Breaking the Ice: Using Ice-breakers and Re-energizers with Adult Learners. Adult Learning, 21(3–4), 34–39. https://doi.org/10.1177/104515951002100305
  • Gillet, S., Winkle, K., Belgiovine, G. and Leite, I. (2022). Ice-Breakers, Turn-Takers and Fun-Makers: Exploring Robots for Groups with Teenagers. 31st IEEE International Conference on Robot and Human Interactive Communication (RO-MAN), Napoli, Italy, pp. 1474–1481. doi: 10.1109/RO-MAN53752.2022.9900644
  • Pearce, E., Launay, J. and Dunbar, R. I. M. (2015). The ice-breaker effect: singing mediates fast social bonding. R. Soc. Open Sci. 2: 150221. https://doi.org/10.1098/rsos.150221
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Recovery after Caesarean Birth

Are you planning a caesarean birth, or have you recently had one? Here’s what to expect during your recovery.

Recovery after caesarean birth

Emotional recovery

How you feel after a caesarean birth depends on what you expected and on what happened before and during the birth.

Almost half of all births in England are now by caesarean (NHS Maternity Statistics, 2024–25), so there’s always a chance you may have one. You may feel happy that your baby is finally here, but disappointed if you were hoping for a vaginal birth. If you can, try to be open to all possibilities before the birth – births rarely go exactly to plan. Learning about your options in pregnancy can help prepare you for different outcomes.

Talking through your caesarean birth with a health professional soon afterwards may help your emotional recovery. You should have the chance to talk to your midwife or obstetrician before you leave hospital. If you don’t, ask for an appointment as soon as possible – this is also a good time to discuss how the caesarean may affect future pregnancies.

Physical recovery

Physical recovery after a caesarean usually takes about six weeks. A caesarean is major surgery, and you will have some pain and discomfort – even laughing, coughing or small movements can make your scar hurt. Supporting your wound with your hands or a pillow helps.

Driving: you can drive again once you can wear a seatbelt comfortably and do an emergency stop without pain – usually after about six weeks. Check with your car insurance provider first, as some have specific rules after surgery.

Tips to aid your recovery and ease discomfort:

  • Eat and drink as soon as you feel hungry or thirsty, and drink plenty. Choose high-fibre foods to help prevent constipation.
  • Keep your wound clean by washing and drying it every day. A freshly washed flannel works well; if you use soap, rinse thoroughly. Pat the wound dry with a clean towel rather than rubbing, and change your towel and flannel daily.
  • Empty your bladder regularly to reduce pressure on your scar.
  • Wear loose clothes and soft cotton knickers one or two sizes bigger than usual (or borrow your partner’s!). You can also buy special post-caesarean knickers that sit above your scar.
  • Tell your midwife if you notice any signs of infection, such as redness, increased soreness or discharge from the scar, or if you have a high temperature.

You’ll be encouraged to start moving gently the day after your operation to help your recovery. You may see a physiotherapist, or at least be given a leaflet by your midwife. Take it slowly, and don’t start more strenuous exercise until your healthcare professional says it’s okay.

Pain relief

Pain relief will be available in hospital, and you’ll be given something to take at home too. The options depend on how much pain you’re in. Most painkillers are safe while breastfeeding – please discuss your options with your midwife, obstetrician or other health professional.

Your scar

If you’d like to know what your scar will look like, visit Caesarean Birth and VBAC Information, which has caesarean scar pictures and a wealth of information about caesarean birth, recovery and VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean).

Breastfeeding

You can start breastfeeding straight after a caesarean. Extra skin-to-skin and support can help. Because of the wound, breastfeeding can be more challenging in the early days, so please ask for help when you need it, and tell your health professional you’re breastfeeding when discussing pain relief.

Future pregnancies

Having one baby by caesarean doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll need a caesarean for future births. You can discuss this with your midwife, GP or obstetrician. Whether you have another caesarean will depend on:

  • the risks and benefits of a caesarean for you and your baby
  • your personal preferences and priorities

However, if your first caesarean was due to something that won’t change in future pregnancies, such as the shape of your pelvis, it’s very likely that a caesarean will be recommended for future births.

Online course including caesarean information

Please also check out my online course! No videos, just text and images to learn in your own time. Includes hypnobirthing mp3s, scripts, workbook, handouts, infographics and much more! Lots and lots of information at your fingertips! Includes:

  • hypnobirthing mp3s
  • hypnobirthing scripts
  • written information
  • infographics and other imagery
  • printable handouts
  • printable workbook/journal

Further information

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8 tips for self-care in pregnancy

Why does self-care in pregnancy matter?

During pregnancy, many expectant parents focus on what’s best for their baby – and one of the most important things you can do for your baby is to look after yourself. While there’s a lot to prepare before your baby arrives, your physical and mental health matter too. These self-care tips may help you prioritise your health and wellbeing, for the benefit of you, your baby and your family.

8 self-care tips for pregnancy

Not sure where to start? Here are my 8 tips for self-care in pregnancy:

  1. Keep a diary or try journaling. Many people find being creative relaxing and soothing. These free affirmations can help you get started!
  2. Enjoy some bonding time. Bond with your baby while listening to hypnosis tracks, meditating or simply sitting and relaxing. Stroke your bump and tune in to your little one! Read more in Bonding with your baby in pregnancy.
  3. Have a bath or shower, or go for a swim. Being in water can help you feel weightless again – many pregnant people love floating in a swimming pool! Or have a relaxing bath with some music or a good book.
  4. Try a pregnancy massage. If you love massages, a pregnancy massage is a wonderful way to practise self-care. Look for a local massage therapist who offers pregnancy massage.
  5. Enjoy early nights. Growing a baby is exhausting!
  6. Eat well. Check with your healthcare provider which foods are recommended or best avoided in pregnancy. Advice changes over time and varies between countries, so check your current local guidance.
  7. Enjoy (long) walks in the fresh air. Try ‘nature bathing’ – inspired by the Japanese practice of forest bathing, it simply means being outside and mindfully enjoying nature. Switch off your phone, clear your mind and stroll through your local countryside. Lots of studies show this is good for mental wellbeing.
  8. Talk to a friend or family member. Talking to a loved one can really boost your wellbeing, so phone a friend or meet up for a cuppa and a chat!

What do you do to relax? Share your ideas with me and other expectant parents in the comments!

Prepare for birth at your own pace with my online course

Please also check out my online course! No videos, just text and images to learn in your own time. Includes hypnobirthing mp3s, scripts, workbook, handouts, infographics and much more! Lots and lots of information at your fingertips! Includes:

  • hypnobirthing mp3s
  • hypnobirthing scripts
  • written information
  • infographics and other imagery
  • printable handouts
  • printable workbook/journal
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Clothes checklist for your winter baby

Having a baby this winter? Congratulations! You may be wondering how many clothes, and which types and layers, your baby will need.

When buying baby clothes, make sure they are machine washable, flame-resistant and made from soft, comfortable materials. Choose clothes that open at the front or have wide, envelope-style necks.

The checklist below is a minimum guide only. A winter baby needs a few more items than a summer baby, and you may like to have a few spares of each if your budget allows.

Clothes checklist for your winter baby

  • 4 sleepsuits/babygrows
  • 4 vests or bodysuits (check for a wide neck opening) – you may prefer long-sleeved ones
  • 4 cardigans or jackets
  • 1 hat (for outdoors only)
  • 2 pairs of socks
  • 2 pairs of mittens (many sleepsuits have built-in mittens, so you may not need any)
  • 1 baby blanket
  • 1 snowsuit or pramsuit (optional)
  • 1 baby sleeping bag (optional)

As well as clothes, your baby will need nappies (reusable or disposable) – and you’ll want plenty of muslin squares! They’re very handy for protecting your clothes, mopping up sick and other bits and bobs, and can even double as an emergency nappy or breast pad 😉

Not sure how many layers your baby needs? My baby clothing layers guide shows you at a glance. Expecting a summer baby instead? See my clothes checklist for your summer baby.

How many layers should my baby wear at night?
How many layers should my baby wear at night?