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What are antenatal classes?

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Antenatal classes are sessions that prepare expectant parents for birth and early parenthood. They give parents information and practical skills so they can approach this life-changing time with confidence. Formats vary, but classes usually cover pregnancy health, labour and birth, pain relief and self-help techniques, infant feeding, newborn care and sleep, postnatal recovery, postnatal mental health and where to find support.

Who goes to an antenatal class?

Where possible, it helps for both parents to attend. That way both of you understand the birth process and can take an active part in decisions. Learning together and sharing your hopes, worries and expectations can also strengthen your bond.

Classes are usually attended by couples, or by pregnant women and people with their birth partners, but they can be just as valuable for lone parents.

Are antenatal classes suitable for lone or single parents?

Being a lone parent during pregnancy and birth can bring its own challenges and worries. Antenatal classes offer a supportive space to connect with other expectant parents, gain knowledge and resources, build confidence, practise skills and start building a support network.

Lone parents can learn techniques to manage the physical and emotional demands of labour, as well as ways to bond with their baby and prepare a calm, positive environment for their arrival.

Classes often cover newborn care too, such as feeding, nappy changing, bathing and soothing. For parents who may not have family or a partner close by, this practical knowledge can be especially helpful.

Just as importantly, classes are a place to share experiences, concerns and questions. For lone parents, they can be a safe space to meet others in similar circumstances, building a sense of community and reducing isolation.

Who provides antenatal classes?

In the UK, many NHS trusts offer free antenatal classes, so ask your midwife what is available locally. Some family hubs and children’s centres run classes too. Paid options include the National Childbirth Trust (NCT), independent antenatal teachers, hypnobirthing teachers and doulas. You can read more on the NHS page about antenatal and hypnobirthing classes.

Are antenatal classes worth it?

Whichever provider you choose, antenatal classes offer many benefits. As well as knowledge and practical skills, they can ease anxiety, build confidence and give you a supportive community at a special time. They are well worth considering if you want thorough preparation for the journey ahead.

Please also check out my online course! No videos, just text and images to learn in your own time. Includes hypnobirthing mp3s, scripts, workbook, handouts, infographics and much more! Lots and lots of information at your fingertips! Includes:

  • hypnobirthing mp3s
  • hypnobirthing scripts
  • written information
  • infographics and other imagery
  • printable handouts
  • printable workbook/journal
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Your Birth Plan

Your birth plan – or better, your birth preferences – can be an important part of your journey into parenthood.

You may have heard people say their birth plan went out of the window, or that it isn’t worth writing one. In my opinion, as a doula and mother of four, it is worth thinking about your birth preferences (rather than a “plan”). Whether you put them in writing is up to you, but sharing and discussing your preferences, thoughts and feelings about the birth with your birth partner(s) is important.

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Information is power – write down your birth preferences!

You can make it as detailed as you like, but the more detail you include, the less realistic your expectations may become. So focus on your top four or five preferences – things you are likely to be able to control.

You may wish to consider:

  • Your birth place – where would you like to give birth?
  • The birth environment
    • Who will be there (birth partner(s), doula…)?
    • Which home comforts would you like (music, a blanket, a cushion…)?
    • What will the lighting be like?
    • Will there be music?
  • Type of birth
    • Vaginal
    • Caesarean
    • Induction
    • In water or out of water
  • Your religion, beliefs and traditions
  • Your medical history and your individual options
  • Your preferences for medical pain relief, for example:
    • “I don’t want any”
    • “Let me know when I can have an epidural”
    • “I would like X but would like to avoid Y”
  • Vaginal examinations and touch: you can decline any vaginal examination, or any other form of physical touch, at any point – and you can change your mind at any time. Many people are happy to have vaginal examinations, and consenting to them can help your midwife support you.

The NHS website has a very detailed birth plan template. It’s a useful checklist to make sure you’ve considered all your options, even if you don’t use it as your actual birth preferences.

It can help to think through your birth in order:

  • Early labour / at home
  • Active labour / on the way to hospital / while waiting for the midwives to arrive
  • Established labour / at your birth place under midwifery care
    • Transition
  • Second stage / pushing
  • Third stage / the placenta
    • The golden hour with your baby

If any of your preferences don’t align with your healthcare provider’s recommendations, discuss them before the day, not on the day. A doula can also help you explore your preferences and make sure you have good, evidence-based information. You might also like my post on using the Circle of Control to write your birth plan.

Please also check out my online course! No videos, just text and images to learn in your own time. Includes hypnobirthing mp3s, scripts, workbook, handouts, infographics and much more! Lots and lots of information at your fingertips! Includes:

  • hypnobirthing mp3s
  • hypnobirthing scripts
  • written information
  • infographics and other imagery
  • printable handouts
  • printable workbook/journal

Some sources of good evidence-based information:

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What to pack in my hospital bag for childbirth?

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Top tips on when, how and what to pack in your hospital bag for childbirth.

You can pack your birth bag whenever you like, but ideally have it ready at least three weeks before your due date.

If you have a birth partner, get them involved in packing the bag – that way they’ll know where everything is on the day!

Use one large bag or suitcase for your ‘overnight stuff’, then pack three smaller bags to go inside it: one for you, one for your baby and one for your birth partner.

Hospital bag or home birth bag for childbirth
Top tip: pack smaller bags inside one larger bag or suitcase!

Bag for mum/birthing person

  • Your birth plan and maternity notes
  • A comfy, loose-fitting dressing gown
  • Nighties (ideally ones that open at the front for breastfeeding)
  • Comfy, loose clothes – baggy joggers, a zip-up hoodie, and tops that undo at the front for skin-to-skin and feeding
  • Slippers you can slide your feet into – if you have a caesarean birth, bending over is tricky
  • Socks – many people get cold feet during labour
  • Slip-on shoes
  • Flip-flops for the shower
  • Hand sanitiser
  • Wash bag, including shower gel with a hook (so you don’t have to bend down in the shower) and hand cream (frequent hand gel makes hands sore)
  • Lip balm – hospital air is dry
  • High-waisted, “Bridget Jones” cotton knickers in case you have a caesarean birth – dark colours are best, a couple of sizes up from your usual
  • Arnica and/or witch hazel for piles and bruising
  • Maternity pads (several packs)
  • Nursing bras
  • A large pack of breast pads, or washable ones, for any leaks
  • Your own pillow and/or pillowcase
  • A towel – hospital ones are scratchy
  • Eye mask (it’s never dark!)
  • Earplugs (it’s never quiet!)
  • Hairbands
  • Headphones
  • Your phone with a labour playlist downloaded (you can usually take your phone into theatre and play music via Bluetooth)
  • A small tripod to prop up your phone or camera
  • Phone charger and power bank
  • Snacks – if you’re having a caesarean birth, dried apricots or prunes can ease constipation, as you may not have a bowel movement for several days
  • Peppermint tea bags – after a caesarean birth, they can help ease trapped wind caused by the operation
  • A sports drink
  • Books, magazines or puzzles – in case you need to stay in hospital before or after the birth
  • Tissues for all the happy tears
  • A photo of your partner for times they can’t be with you, or something they’ve given you, such as love notes
  • Photos of older children and pets

Bag for baby

  • Muslins
  • Nappies – newborn size 1 fits most babies, and newborns can go through about 12 nappies a day
  • Cotton wool pads or balls
  • Baby clothes – at least vests, sleepsuits, cardigans and a hat, including a going-home outfit
  • Baby blankets (cotton, cellular or wool)

Bag for your birth partner

  • A change of clothes
  • Snacks
  • Phone, charger and power bank
  • Change for vending machines (hospital shops may have limited opening hours) and the car park
  • A list of people to call or message with the news
  • The car seat to take your baby home – practise fitting it in the car beforehand!

I hope you find this list useful! If you have anything to add, please get in touch and I’ll add it to the list.